Why Should You Start Dating Only When You’re Ready.
Dating when you’re not ready to give your 100% can be risky.
Relationships are a key part of our reality, they are the connections that we form and break. Most of us have seen the good sides of these relationships and some of us have gone through the worst phases and seen the bad parts.
We are all aware that all relationships are not lucky enough to get the happy ending that they deserve. There are a few, a very lucky few which get the Happy Ending that we all crave. But what’s different about them, why did they succeed?
The reason is simple —
The people involved were ready to give their everything, they would give up anything and everything just to be with each other. The goal is not to just have fun but to marry.
Our lives are filled with different kinds of stress. We are all so busy in our lives chasing money, working a 9 to 5 or trying to be successful but we do not realise that it is a trap. Our ultimate goal should be happiness and satisfaction.
We are being trapped by society. Who are they to decide whether you are successful or not and why to give your everything to a 9 to 5 which won’t even take a week to replace you. Hell, we are enduring such high amounts of peer pressure that we start dating for society, just to prove to them that we are cool.
Dating has become a status symbol. We are all categorizing ourselves and giving tags to our relationship status like Single, Committed or It’s Complicated. Why do we need these tags?
We should date only if we are ready to take it to the next level i.e. to marry at the end.
We need to realise that when we are dating it has 2 (or more) people involved and each one of them has a great impact on the other person. If we cannot give 100%, we should not date. If we lie to ourselves that we are ready then we are not only lying to ourself but also playing with another humans heart. Believe me, we should not play with someone's heart. The damage that we can cause if we are not ready for the commitment is devastating.
Think about it for a second, we start dating for fun, we fool around, we enjoy and we start spending time together, everything is beautiful and we feel like we are having the time of our life. Then suddenly one day the other person walks out of it. They cannot take it anymore and cannot date. Some of us even leave without a proper reason, completely abandoning the other person, leaving scars on their hearts which will sting for a long time.
The person who is left alone at the end starts having self-doubt, they feel the time they spent, the memories they made were all a mistake. They start having regrets, just imagine the heaven in which they were starts feeling like hell. They start developing a fear that they will be abandoned once again someday, they start cutting off from society, they stop forming bonds. Instead of living again they start building walls, they start staying within them, hoping they won’t have to go through the same pain again.
But then once the right person comes along and is willing to give their 100%, it becomes difficult to trust. The impact of 1 bad relationship is carried over to the other and the cycle keeps repeating and expanding.
Can you imagine the amount of pain that you can spread from dating without being 100% ready?
Don’t start dating for fun. If you want to have fun then there are a lot of other options like partying, watching movies, playing games or going out for a long drive but please do not play with another person’s heart.
Have fun in life, do whatever you want but just please don’t play with another human’s heart.
The benefits of dating when you are 100% ready are amazing -
- You start forming a bond which shows you the beauty in life. It gives you a new perspective to see things in life.
- You get to taste real happiness. You don’t have to worry about fake promises, you start being happy.
- You feel complete. You feel satisfied.
- You start spreading love, and you get loved in return :)
- You finally get the happy ending that you crave for.
So, always date when you are ready, do not date under pressure or do not date just to fill a void left by someone. Date to meet your happy ending.
Always wear the scars of your past relationships like battle scars. Be proud of who you are, never let anyone define who you are.
I hope you all find your happy endings :)
