7 Things To Do After A Breakup
A guide to saving yourself from the aftermath and moving on.
Relationships are a beautiful thing, they can build some of the best memories of our lives. But when they end, things can get ugly.
When we start dating and forming relationships we are aware that we are making ourselves vulnerable, we are allowing someone to see the best of us and the worst of us. We are letting someone in and we may get hurt or we may not but it’s a risk we are willing to take, but when they hurt we try to lock ourselves out.
After a breakup, the memories start haunting us day in and day out. We try our best to keep ourselves busy so that the memories don’t come knocking. Our defence mechanism tries its best to save us from the hurt but in order to heal, we must face the situation head-on.
Here are 7 things that you need to do in order to start your journey towards your happiness and preparing yourself for the next relationship of your life:
- Accept The End:
Once a relationship has come to an end, you must realize that there’s no going back. If after trying your best to patch up things don’t work out, you need to accept it.
It can be scary to accept the end but we humans are creatures who can adapt to changes so if one person walks out of it, we can find ways to adapt and regain control of our life. The sooner we accept that the relationship has ended the faster we can recover from the fall and get back in the field.
2. Do Not Hate The Other Person:
No matter what you think the other person did, no matter who was at fault and no matter who ended things. Do not develop hatred towards the other person. We, humans, have been given the power to make decisions and choices that lead to different paths, that’s what separates us from animals. It is in our hands to decide whether we want to spend our time hating the other person or cherish the good sweet memories that we had and not let them turn into bitter ones.
Every human is different and so is every relationship, we must learn something from it. We must remember what we loved and what we enjoyed. Once we have a better understanding of what we liked about the relationship, we then get a better understanding of who we are as a person. The end can help us build a better relationship with our own self.
3. Take Some Time Off:
People treat physical pain as a valid reason to take some time off from their busy lives but ignore the mental pain that they are going through. One should take a day off, let their mind run free. Go do things you loved to do when you were single, go eat that fancy dinner that you wanted, you deserve a treat. Pamper yourself, realise how amazing a human you are and fall in love with yourself all over again.
4. Invest In Yourself:
You wanted to learn how to play the guitar or maybe try cooking something fancy. Do that. You wanted to do something for a while but weren’t getting the time to pursue it, so had to keep it pushed away. Well now is the time to do it, you have the time and energy, you should utilize it productively.
This is the time to invest in yourself because if you do not invest in yourself now, you’ll regret it at a later stage of your life. So make the most out of it while you still have the chance.
5. Give Life To Connections:
You don’t need to feel lonely.
Since you might be feeling a void within you post the breakup, it’s the right time to get in touch with your old friends and start spending time with them so that you can enjoy their company and be happy. It can be a great time to rekindle lost friendships as well, or if you want to walk a different route go ahead and download some dating apps like Tinder, Happn etc (can’t count there are tons of them now) and find new people to connect with. These online platforms can be fun to use and can give you an opportunity to form new friends without even stepping out of your bed. Just imagine the power that you have with such amazing technologies, you can then meet with these new friends and figure out where you want to go next.
You never know who might step into your life next. It’s always a mystery.
6. Live Your Life with 0 Regrets:
Yes, you read it right. You have only 1 life and it’s filled with uncertainties, so start living without ever looking back.
Never regret what you had in the past or any of your decisions. Life is not about the destination but the journey. Always take out some lesson from every phase of life and keep growing. Live your life with 0 regrets and keep levelling up so that you can walk strong on this journey and never look back. The future holds so much good for you, accept it and keep walking.
Start seeing the beauty in the world, look at the way the sun shines over drops of water, enjoy the way the breeze touches your hair and start noticing these small things in life that make it so beautiful. You will fall in love with how amazing life is.
7. Do Not Go Back To The Same Person:
What happens when a glass falls?
Right, it breaks and shatters into small pieces. If you try to collect all the pieces back up and try to stick it together, you could get cut with the shards which would lead to bleeding (hurt). Now, even if you are able to withstand the pain and are able to fix all pieces back together (no matter how much glue you have), it will never be the same glass. It will have cracks in it.
It’s the same case with relationships, think of the relationship as the glass that fell when you broke up.
So you should never go back to the same person post-breakup. It is the biggest mistake many of us make, we feel that maybe thing would be better this time and maybe this way we won’t lose the person.
But remember, the reason you broke up. Remember the hurt that you had to go through, never get back with the same person as you will be making yourself vulnerable to more hurt at a later stage in life.
There was a reason you broke up, you decided not to be with them or vice-versa. If the two of you walked out, it can happen again and you never know when and you’ll have to go through it all again.
Fall in love with yourself, you were born for a reason. Don’t let a breakup ruin your life. Gain control of your life and make the most out of it, the world is your playground.
Once you are sure that you’ve moved on, then it is time to fall in love again. Start dating again, don’t let one bad experience hold you back. You never know when you might find the love of your life.
So go ahead, let the pain go and begin your journey of healing and living. All the best, you can do it! :)
